Healthy Jelly

(A couple of my favorite blogging friends are nutritious food bloggers. I’m wondering if this misleading title has lured them in. Evil laugh goes here.)

I received these sweet words from a blogging friend on my last post:

“you honestly have always inspired me to take advantage of the blessings i have been given and live my best life. so glad you are still living yours.”

This meant a lot to me, because when I first started reading Caitlin’s blog, I remember thinking her life was the coolest and felt a little pang of envy.  She was, and as far as I know still is, a food blogger who gets to cover lots of awesome, local events. I remember thinking something like, “That is so cool. She is so cool. I want to do that.”

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(Picture Credit: areyouaniceguy.com)

So I did.

I started looking into Austin event blogging stuff and eventually found a site that I applied to be a blogger for. I was accepted as part of the SeeSaw Austin crew, and for nearly a year now I’ve been able to do fun things like indoor skydive and go to media tastings and meet Willie Nelson.

I’ve never really understood people who act like jealousy is such a bad, evil thing. It can be, definitely. I think the absolute worst thing is to be the type of person who sits with their envy. Who is envious but does absolutely nothing about it. That sort of jealousy can, and will, swallow and consume and poison a person until they are bitter, angry and really no fun at all to be around.

The thing is that we all get jealous, and anyone who says they don’t is a liar, liar, pants on fire. It’s a natural, unavoidable human emotion. And it’s not really the most pleasant feeling either. But I think that, if used correctly and alongside plenty of hard work, it can be a powerful and even healthy life tool.

For me anyway, envy has always signified that I’m unhappy about something in my own life that probably needs changing. Many years ago, when I would look longingly on the adventures of others, I realized I needed more life experiences of my own. So I started saving most of my money and time for travels and other exciting shenanigans. When I was envious of uber-healthy looking people, I realized I was unhappy about my own body weight and image. So I lost 40+ pounds, started modeling, ran a half marathon and otherwise became obsessed with exercise. (So much so that I still jog nearly every day at almost 5 months pregnant—with doctor’s permission, I swear!) When I felt a little green about those who were passionate about and loved their job, I studied a crap-ton, built a resume I was proud of, graduated college and found a job to love and be passionate about. And when I looked at Miss Caitlin’s blog and thought to myself, “She is so awesome, oh my gosh, why am I not doing these awesome things too?” I stalked and researched and applied around until I too was doing these things I found to be so awesome. Crazy as it may sound, immediately acting on my jealousy has always resulted in me being a better, happier and more confident version of myself.

So I say, don’t let envy consume you. Let it inspire you. Allow it to better you. Overcome the icky feelings by doing something about them. If it’s worth a tinker’s dam, work really damn hard until you have what it is that made you jealous in the first place. If you want something someone else has, don’t sit around on your booty, idly wanting want they have. (Unless, of course, you’re wanting someone else’s significant other. In that case, I do suggest sitting idly. Or taking up a new hobby! Stamp-collecting, perhaps?) Don’t hate them for having something you don’t. By golly, go and get it and love them for motivating you to be someone you weren’t before. Because jealousy is only a bad thing if you don’t do one gosh darn thing about it, y’all.

18 thoughts on “Healthy Jelly

  1. Great post! You’re so right.. there’s nothing wrong with being jealous of someone. But then act on it instead of letting the jealousy consume you. I’m now inspired to find a company that would have me blog about different events!

      • This looks like a great inspirational day. If I were only ygenour and cared about increasing my readership ah, youth. You’ll be great because your DIY’s are great, which BTW, wait till you see MY green and orange St. Paddy’s cakes! (Though you forgot to mention how long to cook them in the cans.) Trial and error, I came up with 40 minutes. Close?

  2. You are freaking aaammmaaazinnnggg! I am so obsessed/in love with this post AND your blog!! What a POSITIVE and truthful spin on jealousy!! I legit thought the same thing about you that you thought about Cait, I was like damn this girl is LIVING THE LIFE!! SO I Googled shit in my area to get involved with and I prob didn’t look hard enough because I couldn’t find much HA!

    • Definitely had a big grin on my face throughout reading this comment>>>😀 !
      Also, it took me a bit but I eventually stumbled across SeeSaw…but if you don’t find anything, may I suggest moving to Austin and we can event blog togetherrrr?!😛

  3. holy moly! this post is pretty awesome. and not just because i’m in it several times😛 but because i had no idea that you were reading my blog and feeling jelly! um same here girlfriend. funny how that works, huh? i’m psyched and honored to hear that my blog inspired you to seek out an event blogger path that you found and have been jogging down (ha) ever since! it’s awesome how living out your passions can help put your mind in a place where it’s healthier and happier, vs those obsessive tendencies we find ourselves trapped in sometimes. YOU ROCK!

  4. aww, love that little graphic – but also totally agree with you about using jealousy as a motivator/indicator to fix things that could be better in your own life. and that austin experience gig? sounds awesome🙂

  5. someone once explained it to me as:
    = Envy is wishing you had or could do what someone else has/did.
    = Jealousy is feeling you deserve what they have/did more than they do.
    Personally, I’ve only felt the 2nd type once and, before that, considered the words interchangeable. But I took the info as an explanation for why other people thing jealousy is bad cause, yeah – if they think it means “i deserve it more”, then it’s bad!!

    • That’s an interesting take on it! The actual textbook definition I found of ‘jealous’ was, “Feeling or showing envy (desire to have a quality, possession, or other desirable attribute belonging to someone else) of someone or their achievements and advantages”, so they can be pretty interchangeable/synonymous in that case. But I think it’s noteworthy that we can all have such different takes on the same words!

      • whoa, why can’t they have left the kiss in the show. claudia joy and desnie SO need to be together. I mean talkin’ about pressure building with no outlet ! there is big love there and both of them feel it and I bet both aren’t sure if they can uproot their families lives and act on it. speaking as a former military wife who fell in love with a close female friend i know what i’m talkin about here!!

  6. I love this post!🙂 I have to admit that for all my (many) faults I’m not a very jealous person, apart from getting a case of body envy now and then I just don’t really have to deal with the emotion. However one of my best friends really struggles with jealousy, she knows it only really hurts her but she can’t just turn off the emotion, I think what you’ve written here would be a great help to her. Turning into something positive and motivating is such a healthy way of dealing with it!

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